The Twenties Survival Guide

Ah, the twenties. Her and I have a love hate relationship. I love love love the thrill of being young and in control of my life. But I hate that I am completely responsible for the way I both fail and succeed in life.  I mean talk about pressure!! From figuring out your career to navigating friendships, relationships, and the whole adulting thing— I think we can all agree that the twenties are a wild ride.

But here’s the truth: If you’re in your twenties and feeling like you don’t have it all together, you’re not alone. In fact, most people are just pretending like they do. So, if you’re ready to take a deep breath and survive (and maybe even thrive) in this chaotic season, keep reading.

1. You Don’t Need to Have It All Figured Out

I’ll say it again for the people in the back: You don’t need to have it all figured out. Society has this idea that by your mid-twenties, you should have your dream job, a house, a partner, and a well-curated Instagram feed. But truth is —nobody has it completely figured out. Life is weirdly unpredictable, and sometimes a complete hot mess, and that’s totally okay. Focus on where you are right now and remember that it’s perfectly fine to be still figuring things out.

2. Mistakes Are Part of the Process

 

 There will be moments when you’ll wish you could turn back time, but every mistake is a lesson in disguise. Whether you end a friendship, quit a job, or take a risk that doesn’t pay off—know that each misstep is leading you closer to who you’re meant to be. So, take the lessons, and move forward.

3. Protecting Your Peace Is Compulsory 

If there’s one thing I’ve learned in my twenties, it’s this: Protect your peace at all costs. People will test your boundaries. Situations will drain your energy. But you are responsible for maintaining your own calm in the chaos. And sometimes, that means saying no to things that aren’t aligned with your mental health or values. It’s okay to walk away from relationships, situations, or commitments that don’t serve you. Your peace is priceless.

4. It’s Okay Not to Be “Doing the Most”

There’s so much pressure in the world today to be constantly hustling, achieving, and doing the most.And while ambition is great, it’s important to take moments to just be. You don’t always have to be out there living your best life or running a business from your side hustle. Sometimes, your best life is spent lying in bed watching Netflix, or simply enjoying the small moments with friends and family. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone.

5. Self-Love Is a Journey, Not a Destination

Some days you’ll feel on top of the world, loving every inch of yourself. Other days, you’ll feel like you’re not enough. And that’s okay. Self-love isn’t a destination you arrive at; it’s a journey you navigate every day. Some days will feel like wins, and others will be harder. But the most important thing is to be kind to yourself on the tough days. You’re doing your best, and that’s all that matters.

6. Let Go of Toxic Relationships 

Your twenties are a time of growth, and sometimes that means outgrowing people you thought would be in your life forever. Not every friendship is meant to last, and that’s perfectly fine. If you have people in your life who drain you, belittle you, or don’t support your growth, it’s okay to walk away. Surround yourself with those who lift you up and make you feel seen, heard, and loved. The right people will always make you feel like you belong.

7. Do the Things That Make Your Heart Sing

In the hustle of life, it’s easy to forget the things that light you up. Whether it’s painting, writing, cooking, traveling, or just sitting in silence with a cup of hot chocolate, make time for those things. Life can get overwhelming, but it’s in those small, simple moments that you reconnect with yourself. Your passions are your soul’s way of telling you that you’re on the right track, so make them a priority.

8. Embrace the Awkward Phases

Let’s face it—your twenties are a collection of awkward phases. You’ll try things that don’t work. You’ll fail. You’ll feel uncertain. But here’s the secret: everyone feels that way. We’re all figuring it out as we go. Embrace the awkwardness, the uncertainty, and the vulnerability. Those moments are part of your growth and will shape the person you’re becoming. You’re not meant to have it all figured out yet—so give yourself permission to be imperfect.

If you’re in your twenties and feeling lost or behind, trust me, you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be. Keep going, and remember to be kind to yourself along the way. Your journey is uniquely yours, and you’re doing just fine.

 

Payton xx